Today's Everyday Fashion: The Red Blazer

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I wore this to a holiday party last night. I wasn't sure how to interpret the "'holiday' attire" that was on the invite, so I played it safe in red plaid, a red blazer and sparkly necklace that mimics a snowflake shape. I loved the group of girls in footie pajamas, and one of my friends had on snowflake leggings, a Christmas graphic tee and an embroidered sweater vest - there were some pretty amazing ensembles. My outfit was obviously much more tame, and I wore it without the blazer for afternoon errands and dinner before the party. What are your favorite creative ideas for dressing up for a holiday party?

Blazer: Victoria's Secret c/o MJR Sales, $35
Top: Forever 21, $20 (similar, similar, similar, plus size)
Jeans: H&M, $32 (similarbootcut)
Belt: H&M, $20
Boots: Chinese Laundry c/o
Purse: Karen Millen, gift (similarvegan)
Necklace: Stella & Dot, old (similar, similar)
Approx. dates: Necklace is 3 years ago, blazer is 2 years ago, jeans and purse are last year, top and boots are recent.

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My November Budget

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1. Banana Republic, $50
2. J.Crew Factory, $45 (similar)
3. Banana Republic, $30 (similarsimilar)
4. Ann Taylor, $25
5. Limited, $45
6. Limited, $64 (similar, similar)
7. Forever 21, $37
8. Report/Piperlime, $10

Grand total = $306

This is what I bought with my November budget! Two printed blouses that are easy to throw on with jeans, but also perfect for TV segments (the sleeves are key). One extravagant holiday dress that I simply couldn't pass up thanks to a 50% off coupon. One blue striped shirt that was a replacement for a similar shirt I've loved for many years. One quilted puffer vest that is unlike anything I have in my closet and a trend I wanted to try. One pair of coated black jeans because I need new black jeans and fell in love with the zippers. (I'm unsure how classic the fabric is though, fingers crossed they withstand the test of time.) And finally, the shoes. I checked black ankle boots off my wish list. With a coupon code they came to $75, and then I used a $65 gift card from last Christmas. (Apparently I'm a gift card procrastinator.) The t-strap shoes are just too amazing to pass up at that price, plus I'm hoping to replace my worn out black and gold cap toe pumps. 

My December wish list is still in the works, but I am stalking the red/camel/black dress below. So I did a Babble post with 18 colorblocking options under $100.

What clothing items and trends are currently on your wish list?

You may also like: "How to Set a Clothing Budget."

 

New Babble post: "The Colorblock Trend: 18 Ways To Wear It This Winter"

Click the image to read! Everything is under $100.

Fighting Fat Talk with Special K

We had girls' night at Kristin's this week. Once a month we get together and make a bunch of food, catch up, and laugh ourselves silly. This week, someone turned on the Victoria's Secret fashion show. Here are a couple examples of what I heard my (amazing, gorgeous, not even a little bit "fat") friends say:

"Excuse me while I go throw up."
"I'm going to drown my sorrows in another donut, since I'll never be that skinny."

I tried my best not to join the "fat talk", but I also couldn't fault them for it - I was thinking the same things they were! How did we get to the point where this kind of talk feels normal? Body diversity, accepting our bodies, and fighting fat talk are all topics I'm really passionate about, so I was thrilled to be asked to participate in the Special K #FightFatTalk campaign. They provided the awesome graphic above, and I've come up with three scenarios where "fat talk" is common and some ideas for fighting it!

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Scenario 1: The unflattering dress.

I love this navy dress. I obsessed over it, ordered it, couldn't wait for it to arrive. But after I took these pictures, the fat talk started in my head. All I can see is my stomach in the right photo! There are many things I could choose to feel good about in the photos and about my body in general, but instead my instinct was "fat." Not cool.

Tips for fighting it: Moments like these are always going to happen in the fitting room. It's a matter of choosing to believe that it's not our bodies that are the problem. Repeat after me: my body is beautiful and there is nothing wrong with it! In this case and many others, there are better clothing options that will flatter and it's as simple as that. We can't always change our bodies, but we can toss the dress. (I returned it.) The dress might not always flatter, but our bodies are not to blame.

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Scenario 2: The unflattering picture.

You know - the picture where you have muffin top, and your arm looks wider than your waist and you have three chins? And then someone posts it to Facebook and you can't untag yourself fast enough? Yes, that picture!! 

Tips for fighting it: The Australian personal trainer (red bikini) is illustrating just how deceiving a photo can be. That's her on the right a few minutes later, with a different pose and some small changes. And I love the collage with the black v-neck illustrating flattering poses. Just like my dress, an unflattering photo is never about your body. There is such thing as a bad photo of a beautiful body, or even a hundred bad photos of a beautiful body. Toss those unflattering photos and never think about them again. And feel free to book a photo shoot or snap away in a mirror to prove just how amazing your body can look in a photo.

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Scenario 3: The gorgeous woman in a magazine.

"Forty-one percent of women engage in fat talk when looking at photos of other women." I can't say I blame them - flipping through a magazine, Pinterest, you name it - it's hard not to feel like I'm the only one with body flaws! Or pores for that matter!

Tips for fighting it: In these moments, I like to remind myself of these "before and after" photos. Not because they are exposing some big flaw. They aren't - I mean how gorgeous are Candice and Jessica in the left photos?! No, I like these images because they keep our expectations at a human level. Advertising uses a lot of "smoke and mirrors" that can make women appear thinner than reality, but a good defense is to be educated about what we are really seeing. Still feeling low? Try avoiding the images altogether. Pay attention to what types of content triggers fat talk and unsubscribe yourself.

I want to hear from you! How do you feel when your friends fat talk  - do you join them or protest? What triggers your own fat talk? What strategies do you use for overcoming fat talk?

This post is sponsored by Special K. All opinions and views are my own. Thanks so much for reading!